The Big Leap: Conquer Your Hidden Fear and Take Life to the Next Level
Most of us believe that we will finally feel satisfied and content with our lives when we get the good news we have been waiting for, find a healthy relationship, or achieve one of our personal goals. However, this rarely happens. Good fortune is often followed by negative emotions that overtake us and result in destructive behaviors. "I don't deserve this," "this is too good to be true," or any number of harmful thought patterns prevent us from experiencing the joy and satisfaction we have earned. Sound familiar? This is what New York Times bestselling author Gay Hendricks calls the Upper Limit Problem, a negative emotional reaction that occurs when anything positive enters our lives. The Upper Limit Problem not only prevents happiness, but it actually stops us from achieving our goals. It is the ultimate life roadblock.
In The Big Leap, Hendricks reveals a simple yet comprehensive program for overcoming this barrier to happiness and fulfillment, presented in a way that engages both the mind and heart. Working closely with more than one thousand extraordinary achievers in business and the arts—from rock stars to Fortune 500 executives—whose stories are featured in these pages, the book describes the four hidden fears that are at the root of the Upper Limit Problem.
The Big Leap delivers a proven method for first identifying which of these four fears prevents us from reaching our personal upper limit, and then breaking through that limitation to achieve what Hendricks refers to as our Zone of Genius. Hendricks provides a clear path for achieving our true potential and attaining not only financial success but also success in love and life.
THE BIG LEAP revolves around the interesting proposition that while we all like to feel good, most of us have acquired a ceiling for our expectations in the course of growing up. The optimism and exuberance of childhood have given way to a darker view of how the world works and our place in it. We then make our reality conform to our expectations and engineer circumstances to bring us back to the “safe” upper limits our subconscious has imposed on us.
This has the effect of our putting on the brakes whenever we get out of our zone of comfort – what Hendricks calls our Zone of Competence or even of Excellence. But his mission is to get us to recognize our upper limit problem and break through it to living in our Zone of Genius. This is the sweet spot where we are doing work that nurtures our spirit and offers lasting contentment.
Hendricks has examined the human spirit and psyche for all of his working life. A PhD in Counseling Psychology from Stanford, and then a Professor at the University of Colorado for 21 years, he co-founded the Hendricks Institute with his wife Kathlyn to focus on conscious living and relationships. This book seems to be an exposition and distillation of some of the most important lessons for achieving our true potential. Through a series of questions for contemplation and other tools, he gently guides the reader to an understanding of how and where you have created limits, how to move beyond them to living in your zone of genius and succeeding in love, life and finances.
What I was most taken by was his “Ultimate Success Mantra.” It is similar on the surface to many other affirmations you probably have read over the years, but I believe this one is profoundly different.
I would call it the Golden Rule for the Quantum Age, because while affirming that you expand in abundance, success and love every day, you do so by means of inspiring others to do the same. It reinforces the understanding of our interconnectedness and predicates your ultimate success on what you radiate back to others. This is the true Law of Attraction in action. Get the book and let its wisdom inspire your Genius.