Leaning into Sharp Points: Practical Guidance and Nurturing Support for Caregivers
Most of us are going to step into the role of caregiver to a loved one at some point. Maybe we’ll help our spouses or parents as they recover from strokes, open-heart surgeries, or some other health crisis. Maybe we’ll provide end-of-life care for family or a dear friend. Either way, we’re probably not ready for it.
LEANING INTO SHARP POINTS is “a book of preparation” that offers us a glimpse into the difficulties and the joys of being a caregiver. Not a set of rigid guidelines nor a collection of easy tips, this is a book that encompasses the whole experience of caregiving and that answers the often-unspoken question, “What do I do?”
Author Stan Goldberg is a therapist but it’s his years of experience as a hospice bedside and vigil volunteer that makes LEANING INTO SHARP POINTS such a valuable gift. He shares the lessons he’s learned while dealing with the dying and their families, covering situations we’ve worried about, problems we’ve never considered, and situations that would blindside us if not for the heads-up in this book.
Goldberg covers the practical matters, such as Do Not Resuscitate orders, living wills, and other forms, and includes information about where and how to obtain all of these. He’s also included several appendices with information about organizations that are available to help with navigating the many stages and individual needs of both loved ones and caregivers.
Perhaps the most important section of LEANING INTO SHARP POINTS is Goldberg’s advice about particularly awkward subjects, such as
• letting our loved ones know how much they mean to us
• what to say and when to say it
• how to adapt to the physical and emotional changes in our loved ones as well as in ourselves
• how to talk about dying
• how to avoid feeling resentful.
Goldberg goes beyond the daily routine and into the heart of serving-- not just accommodating-- while teaching us how to tend to our needs without feeling guilty or neglectful. LEANING INTO SHARP POINTS is a gentle book filled with reassurance for the caregiver. It might even be considered an inspirational book, addressing as it does the spiritual nature of compassionate care. Above all, however, it is a treasure for anyone who needs and wants to travel with a loved one on a difficult journey.